Head toward Scotland.
Yes, that’s a great idea. Let’s all get together and do something fun to get to know each other.
It’s so cool it’s ACES! Here are the deets for Venmo: @michaelvenske .
Awe, your friend is too kind! I’m always interested in learning a new couple’s story. Rates vary. Let’s get a beverage face-to-face so I may better understand what you’re looking for and how I might be able to help.
Perhaps not this Saturday, but we can look at a future Saturday.
I always like to know the names of both individuals. It’s also nice if the couple shares their favorite photo or brings along a save-the-date card.
There isn’t anything you need to bring except your questions and ideas.
We can meet anywhere. The best spots offer food, beverage, parking, and the ability to have an open-heart conversation at a dull roar.
Ensure the date is available on the calendar, you both want to work with me, and the deposit to hold the date has been sent.
Since 2008 I’ve been officiating weddings. I’m looking forward to sharing those insights with you soon!
Yes. Thank you for sharing your preferred method of communication.
I accept cash, check, cashier’s check, Venmo, Paypal, Apple Pay, and in some circumstances trade services.
I’ll breakdown services and prices in person at the end of our initial consult.
Yes, I can be of service.
Yes. What are your favorites? Let’s compare lists!
In the Minneapolis-St.Paul metropolitan area.
Thursday evenings are dedicated couple meeting times. If Thursday doesn’t work, we can find a day that works for everyone.
I can provide microphones and speakers if necessary.
If it’d make you feel better, sure.
Hi, I’m a professional wedding officiant. Have we met? We should. Let’s talk.
Short notice doesn’t work well for me. Scheduling meetings weeks in advance works best. If it’s not feasible to schedule so far in advance, let me know what works best for you.
Let’s get two dates on the calendar as soon as possible. If you’d like to ensure your ceremony date is safe, a non-refundable deposit is required.
After an initial meeting I will be able to provide a quote.
Ceremony location > 200 miles away?
- Add private lodging for the evening before & day of the ceremony
Beyond MN / WI?
- Add airfare, private lodging, and ground transport
- 58¢/mile roundtrip
A couple meets with me in person (preferred) for 60 – 90 minutes.
- This initial conversation is totally free with no obligation.
- This is a time to ask questions, share a bit about your relationship, and get to know how I work.
The couple decides they want/don’t want to hire me to officiate their wedding.
- A rate is agreed upon.
- Hugs and handshakes are exchanged.
- Two* future 90 – 120 meetings are scheduled. (* = sometimes more meetings are necessary)
- A deposit saves the couple’s date so no other couple can book officiant.
Meetings are held at locations of the couple’s choosing.
- A circle of trust is established.
- Drinks and dinner are usually involved.
A rough draft ceremony is shared.
- Feedback is incorporated.
- A rehearsal may occur.
Then it’s time to get married!
Yes, with references available upon request.
Each couple is charged with its own special type of magic.
The sooner we get dates on the calendar the better.
Talking with your partner is an honor. I’d love to give ’em a call. Sorry to hear you’re so swamped!
Sure do! I’ll share mine if you share yours.
I was raised in a Lutheran church that has been my family’s spiritual home for over 80 years.
My grandparents, Marion and Gordon, were married in that church. It’s where my dad and aunt’s were baptized and confirmed. My parents were married there too. This is the same church where my brother and I were baptized, received holy communion and were later confirmed. Where we went to Sunday School and Vacation Bible School and ushered and cleaned and sang in the choirs and played in the worship band…And most recently, where I delivered my grandfather’s eulogy.
However, I wouldn’t say I’m “religious.” I identify as a Unitarian Universalist and would call myself generally “spiritual” versus “religious.”
I believe the relationship you have (or don’t) with a Supreme Being/God/the Loving Mystery/Holy Wow/etc is personal and private. Just like my relationship with the Holy Wow is personal and private.
If you’d like to mention your faith or beliefs, good! If you prefer not to, good! My purpose is to share your story in a meaningful, memorable way.
In Minnesota, as per MN § 517.08:
- Full legal names
- Dates of birth
- Places of birth
- Social security numbers (if one has been issued)
- Current ages
- Current address to include the county where that address is located
- Any previous marriage information (i.e., date of divorce, county, and state where it took place, name of court, date of death); no divorce documents are required
- Legal name after marriage
- Address after marriage
In Wisconsin, as per WI § 765.09:
- Photo ID, such as a driver’s license, state ID card, Passport, etc.
- Proof of residency for the past 30 days. Application must be made in the county where either the bride or groom is a resident. If both parties live outside of Wisconsin, you must apply in the county where the ceremony will take place.
- Social security numbers (if one has been issued)
- Certified copy of birth certificates.
- If previously married; death certificate, divorce judgement papers (a six-month waiting period is required after your divorce before you can apply for a marriage license) or court annulment certificate.
- If you are under the age of 18, a consent form must be signed by both parents or legal guardian.
- Application must be made between 5 and 30 days prior to the wedding (not more than 30 days before, and not less than 5 days before).
- Fee: $100.00
- Both of the parties must make application in person.
- Bride and groom should be prepared to let the County Clerk’s Office know the date of the wedding ceremony, what county they will be married in, what municipality (city, village or township), name of the officiant, officiant mailing address and telephone number.
(Minnesota abolished common law marriages in 1941.)
No. Blood tests or physicals are not required.
Letters of Sponsorship are no longer required effective April 25, 2014, with the enactment and publication 2013 Wisconsin Act 372. As such, under WI § 765.15 there is no requirement for an officiating person to file credentials within the state of Wisconsin.
And, if you’re curious, the Wisconsin Attorney General says this:
“Ministers or clergy ordained or appointed through the internet may solemnize marriages if they meet the requirements of § 765.15 or § 765.17. The statute does not permit, and the Constitution of the United States may prohibit, inquiry into the method of ordination or appointment.”
If your wedding is outside of the Twin Cities metro area, yes. The fee is comparable to the 54.5¢ per mile federal mileage guidelines. Called a “mileage fee” you’re actually compensating for the most valuable resource: time.
If your ceremony site is super far away and the mileage fee starts adding up, know three things:
- No one else can share your story the way I will. I am the best at what I do.
- Everything is negotiable.
- I’m totally worth it.
Anywhere in Minnesota and Wisconsin.
Yes, the entire states! This includes: backyards, wedding halls, Masonic Temples, lake fronts, carnival rides, boats… The list is endless! Succinctly: wherever you and your partner feel most comfortable.
A marriage license costs $115.00 and is due at time of application… Unless you’ve taken 12 hours or more of pre-marital classes. If you and your partner have participated in at least 12 hours of pre-marital counseling the cost is $40, due at the time of application, in addition to a dated and notarized Educator’s Statement. (MN § 517.08)
Yes. This way everyone’s on the same page regarding date, time, location, rehearsals, middle names, favorite colors…
I’d love that! Let me buy you a cup of coffee or a slice of pie.
Of course! I’m happy to help and guide you, but above all the ceremony needs to resonate with you.
Every ceremony is different because every couple is different. Each ceremony is crafted based on interactions with the couple and the couples’ reflections on their story.